What is NOT Consent!

Consent is very important for a healthy dance community

1. Silence or Lack of Resistance

• Just because someone doesn’t say “no” doesn't mean they’re saying “yes.”

• They might be uncomfortable, unsure, or frozen.

2. Assumptions Based on Past Behavior

• Just because someone danced closely with you before doesn’t mean they always want to.

• Consent must be reconfirmed every time.

3. Flirting or Dressing a Certain Way

• What someone wears, how they dance, or if they smile at you doesn’t imply consent.

• Never assume someone is “inviting” anything beyond what they’ve clearly agreed to.

4. Being in a Relationship or Friendship

• Even if you’re close friends or dating, you still need ongoing consent.

• Familiarity does not equal permission.

5. Consent Given Under Pressure or Influence

• If someone says yes because they feel pressured, scared, intoxicated, or manipulated—that’s not real consent.

• True consent must be freely given.

6. "They Didn’t Say No" or “They Didn’t Push Me Away”

• Passive body language, avoiding eye contact, freezing, or discomfort are all signs something’s off.

• Consent is active and enthusiastic, not passive or hesitant.

Simple Rule

If it’s not a clear “yes,” it’s a no.

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About the Author:

Arun Pauer is a scientist turned dancer with nearly 16 years of teaching experience in Salsa, Bachata, and Kizomba. Having taught and performed in over 25 countries, he is actively shaping the social dance scene in Graz and Chennai. Whether you're new to dancing or a seasoned social dancer, there’s always something to discover.

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